Fear is Not the Enemy...You Are!

Fear is not the enemy. It is your best friend. It protects you. Your parents protected you as a child, or at least they tried. For those that didn’t have parents that did, you had teachers or friends that tried to protect you. Did you always listen to their advice? Why not? Because you knew better. You knew what your parents, friends and teachers didn’t. You had the experience and belief in yourself to climb that tree, to jump off that roof, to go down that ramp that was clearly way too steep on your bike. Against the best efforts of those that tried to “protect” you, you did it anyway.

Fear is not your enemy; it is your best friend. Why do you listen to it? Comfort! You enjoy comfort over pain. You are human. You’d rather choose mediocre comfort over the thought of the pain you might face if you didn’t listen to the voice in your head saying you aren’t enough!

Fear is not your enemy. Indecision is your enemy. Giving up too early because your mind says it’s “too hard” is your enemy. Giving in to the thoughts that lie to you, telling you, “you are not enough” is your enemy. Quitting is your enemy. You see, on the other side of fear is unlimited success. The very thing that holds you back is not fear. It’s not the external bullshit you blame; time, kids, work, bills, spouse, bosses, friends, the weather. Stop it! That stuff is outside your control. The real thing that is holding you back… its YOU.  

Today is the day you let go of the noise. Let go of the pain of the past. There is a saying that we shouldn’t cry over spilled milk. It sticks with me because the analogy is spot on. The milk is on the ground. It isn’t going back in the jug. Even if it did, you wouldn’t want to drink it. So, clean it up, and move on. Cryng over it won’t help. Whining to others about it; useless. Let it go and focus on the next step forward. Let go of the things you blame that are outside your control. Get the towel, clean yourself up, and keep… moving,,, forward. That’s it!

Starting now, I mean right now, instead of focusing on the fear and running around telling others that you can’t do this because of some bs about things outside your control, look fear in the face and ask this most important question: “What is truly holding me back right now?”

I’m not saying you don’t have real obligations that take your energy and time. Life is happening. Stop using it as an excuse for mediocrity. Set your mind on facing your fear. Your fear of failing. Your fear of looking stupid. Your fear of letting your family down. Your fear of letting your team down. Your fear of not being good enough. Your fear of letting yourself down.

Face that fear, right here, right now. Look it right in the face and say, “Not today! Today is MY day! Today I will take control of me. I will take control of my thoughts. I will take control of my emotions. I will take control of my actions. I will take control of my life. Today, I will win.” Even if it is small, a win is one step closer to the championship. The season isn’t won in 1 game. It happens after proving yourself over and over until you are at the top.

You have let yourself get beat by your own mind and thoughts for too long. Stop listening to the lies that your parents, teachers, friends and enemies have put in there.  Write your own story. Literally, write it down. Read it every day! “I will show up for me today. I will fight the negative thoughts that I have let rule me for far too long. I will change the pattern, because I am enough, and I deserve the greatness I once believed was possible for my life.”

Shape your mind, shape your life. You are enough! Win the day!

If you want to conquer your FEAR, but aren't sure how, let me help! You deserve greatness!